March 24, 2026

(WARNING, ADULT CONTENT. Be advised that if you disagree with anything that follows, you’re on the wrong side of several Doctors of the Church, as is explained. In the sections that have been abbreviated for modesty, the citations are provided so you can look them up. I also recommend THIS. Comments are off.-nvp)

The topic today is this: What is permitted behavior in the bedroom between Catholic spouses? From the start, I have to give this disclaimer: I despise writing about this topic, especially since I endanger my own soul in bringing potentially-immodest writings to the internet (as if the internet does not already have enough.)

However, I have discovered that the question of exotic behavior in the bedroom is unfortunately on the minds of countless Catholic couples across the globe. Similarly, I have unfortunately found that 98% of priest-confessors out there are misleading the Catholic laity on this topic. By what authority can I claim they are “misleading” them while I seem to know better? Because we actually have the answers from the Church Fathers and the Doctors of the Catholic Church.

Some will already protest in fear of my upcoming answers: Why should we trust the Church Fathers and the Doctors of the Church so firmly? First, the Council of Trent and Vatican I assert that the “unanimous consent of the Fathers” is to be considered infallible when interpreting the Sacred Scriptures. Secondly, a Doctor of the Church is a saint of the Catholic Church whose writings have been so meticulously evaluated by the Church that we know there is nothing contrary in their writings to the Magisterium. It’s not a guarantee that everything they wrote is infallible, but it’s pretty close.

 

The discussion addresses what sexual behaviors are permissible between Catholic spouses, emphasizing that many priests misunderstand this due to insufficient grounding in the teachings of the Church Fathers and Doctors of the Church, whose consensus and writings carry near-infallible authority when interpreting Scripture. Specifically, St. Thomas Aquinas condemns any marital acts that deliberately avoid natural receptivity for procreation as sinful, a stance that conflicts with more modern, permissive views allowing oral and anal sex within marriage provided intercourse is eventually completed naturally. This perspective calls couples to adhere strictly to the traditional understanding that the sexual act must remain open to life and reject any artificial deviation as contrary to nature and morality.

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